Those of you that are following my life know that I am a bit stressed right now. Today and tomorrow are moving day and, although I have a lot to look forward to, divorce and moving  are not designed to make a girl feel happy and relaxed.

I have been aware recently that I have been a little difficult. Or, if you want more details, I have been rude, aggressive, angry, unkind, unpleasant, moody, irritable – things like that, but not as nice. I do hope you have not noticed, Dexter has been he lucky recipient. He has broad shoulders. We have both been aware that if only he could get his hands on me he could sort me out and both he and I would feel a lot better.

In short, for acute and long term stress (which is what I am suffering from) a spanking therapy would make all the difference to me. I wondered if I was alone in linking spanking as a stress cure. I know as you are reading here you may well have considered that iea before-  but what about the others? The non-spankers? Or do they resort to pills? (which I point bank refuse to. My stress is a normal reaction to events. I have to get through it another way.) (I know about the Russian study by the way- but lots of us have written about that.)

So I did a brief search and  found this little gem. It is about PMS rather than stress but I think that I can see the connection.

PMS and spanking.  If you click the link you will see this is not a kinky website.

Does anyone else deal with PMS with spankings? Strange as it may seem, the most effective PMS ‘treatment’ I have found is to be spanked by my husband. It only takes a few minutes and works wonders for my attitude and level of irritability. I benefit from a spanking three days before my period is due to start and another two days before it starts. This second spanking is usually enough to carry me through what would otherwise be my time of PMS. I have read that it is related to increasing levels of endorphins and other chemicals. All I know is that for whatever reason, it works. For about a day after I feel more balanced, positive, and far less irritable. We sometimes incorporate erotic spankings into or sexual games and role play scenes, but these PMS spankings are different. We don’t bother with making a game of it, but rather just charge right in and get it done. These “therapeutic” spankings are usually quicker but a bit harder than those that are for fun. He just carefully brings me to the edge of tears or until tears actually form in my eyes (about half the time), and then holds me and tells me he loves me. The whole thing takes but a few minutes and I feel so much better for the next day or two. It is a wonder how much better those endorphins and a good cry will make me feel! Has anyone else discovered this or am I the only one in the world like this? I am afraid to talk to my girlfriends about it for fear of what they may say or think. I just know it works for me!

I know that this woman is a spankee (she has other types of spankings) but a couple of things occurred to me. Firstly, I can imagine there being a few men jumping at the chance to spank their wife/ girlfriend when she had PMS. It might help him reduce his feelings of stress (being an innocent under fire)  and be a little sexy to boot. But I do want to stress that I am not of the belief that all women should be spanked- it works for those of us it works for.

But it was the replies that amazed me. I expected some shrieks but there were none. Six responses, all positive except the last one.

Comments included,

“I’ve honestly never thought to try that but it makes a lot of sense. The release of endorphins and tears is probably very therapeutic. … I was on here looking for drug therapy but maybe a little spanking therapy might be a better (and more natural) remedy.” A woman after my own heart. I will take drugs if that is what is really needed but not for something that is not an illness and not a natural part of life.

And how open is she to the idea? I love it!

“My husband doesn’t really do this to me much now, (so he doesn’t really understand the concept), but it the past, I have had other men turn me over their knees and soundly spank me to tears. … After the spanking and the tears, it was like I had a runners high or something. I’d find that life wasn’t so terrible anymore as it was before the spanking.”

Ok, this woman is one of us, but that at least shows there is a lot of us out there. And she makes excellent points- right now, as I type that, I want that.

“ I wish I could convince my husband to really give me a good spanking or find someone who is willing without the sexual part of it. It is embarrassing, but very freeing” Been that woman,, stopping being that woman today.

“I believe good old fashioned spanking gives an emotional release that nothing else can give. I wish I could get my husband to really spank me to tears for the release, but he is too afraid to hurt me.” Another woman feeling the same- isn’t it amazing these people are all commenting? I love that they sound so regular, it is a just a sweet part of life, if you are lucky enough to have it.

“deep down most women know this IS the best medicine for attitude adjustment” I am aware that this person needs some writing lessons and sounds a little simplistic for my liking but it is another positive comment.

And the final comment? “Cheap drugs on line” An advert- spam for drugs.

The point of this post is that firstly, what we do is not so crazy, not so awful, just a way of being that lots of people understand. That matters to me now. It helps to know that.

And secondly, to remember that spanking is perfectly sensible, drug free way to deal with stress.

If anyone fancies coming to carry some boxes for me it would be much appreciated. But you should know, Dexter does not get here until tomorrow- so I am still a bit of a dragon.

Would you like another?