This comes from a magazine’s top tips for getting a woman in “the mood”
2- When you’re getting it on, make sure she’s completely relaxed and comfortable.
Researchers in the Netherlands have found that the key to getting a woman turned on and to the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Brain scans showed that the parts of women’s brains responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm. Men showed far less change in these regions. “What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm,” says the study’s lead researcher, Dr. Gert Holstege.
I would just like to say that is utter tosh. Do you know what girls like? I will write this about me but I know that lots and lots of girls will be sitting there nodding.
I like that he is so much stronger than I am and that if I struggle a little he takes no energy at all to keep me just where he wants me. If I struggle a lot he laughs and holds me tight. I like that struggle, I like that shred of anxiety when I think he is mean and bossy and won’t let me get my own way.
I love the idea (and the reality) that if I behave how he does not want me to or just if he has a mind to, he can flip me over his knee and make me squeal as he reddens my bum.
And if he gives me that look, you know the one, then I am all done in and want nothing more than to show him just how mindful of him I can be. I find him a bit scary at these times. He can make me quiet and stand a little awkwardly just outside the door of the room where he is. He might need to come and get me and the chances are I cannot look him in the eye. 
It is a mouth that silences my temper as he takes my face in his hands and kisses me hard. It is forcing me over his knee when I tell him that I am tired and showing me that my body is not at all in agreement with me.
If I want to relax I will have a bubble bath. So please ignore the advice from the top, gentlemen, take advice from this bottom instead.
Very true – even for Dutch girls, I am sure.
Poppy, good morning.
and warm 
Well said, I like a girl who speaks up for herself.
We get a lot of advise from professors who theorize but rarely practice.
I’ve known a couple of Dutch girls who would agree with you.
The week-end is almost upon us, It may be rough, take care.
Paul.
Quite right, Poppy.
Oh yes, yes.
Being taken where you think you do not want to go, and then you find out it is exactly where you wish to be, is sometimes irresistible. Both in lovemaking and in life, I mean.
I would like to respectfully disagree. If I had real fear/anxiety I’d never be able to relax and have an orgasm, but since I trust Daddy then, yes, he can put me over his knee or do whatever he wants, and it’s because I trust him that whatever he does is exciting and makes me want to submit over and over to his complete control over me.
Your posts always have me sitting here nodding.
Those magazine articles are always ridiculous. “Top 30 ways to get your man hot”, uh yeah, it doesn’t take anywhere near 30 things. Starts with a b and ends with job. Lol.
Mr J, I am certain that Dutch girls are much like the rest of us.
Paul, it is a wonderful weekend and I hope you find it so too.
Lorraine and Ephemera, well thank you. It is good to have fellow wonderful women agree with me.
Scarlet, I agree and I think that very often sexual things are an analogy for how we live all together. We express the inner and the outer and cannot seperate the two.
Kitty, I do not think we disagree at all. I am writing about a relationship with a man that is very caring. I am not saying that I would enjoy anything erotic while tied to a bomb or with someone unkind. It is the trust that makes the fear erotic for me also.
Lea, they are so silly aren’t they? Your tip on men is one I whole heartedly agree with. I would love to know why they like that so very much.