This is a very short post and I don’t want to talk about it much.
Dev and I have decided (some months ago) that it is too hard to be so far apart and really that we need to develop other friendships.
Isn’t that a rubbish way to say it? How does one say something like this? I am only saying anything at all because we were very public about our feelings for a long time and then said nothing about this change, and that is hard for other people, who need to know what to say and how to treat us.
I love him and he is the most wonderful man. I just became so, so unhappy at the distance between us and how rarely we could see one another. Little has changed except it kind of has, very much.
I don’t want to talk about it other than to say we both care about each other a great deal. He still helps me a lot, we still talk; I still think he is a sexy, kind, thoughtful, Toppy
man.
It is just we are different. I am different. I am writing about other things, and people have been kind about that. I think I needed to say it clearly so that people understood, except it was not clear at all because it is a hard thing to write.
I hope people understand. I think people will.
PS- I want to redesign my site. I have started. It will take a while.
Poppy, I am very sorry to hear that you and Dev are not “together” anymore. It’s sad,
but the vast distance between the two of you must have been so difficult.
Warm hugs to you.
Hermione
Poppy, I understand. It’s so difficult being together yet apart. The physical separation is a challenge that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I hope that you’re feeling all right about letting go. Cherish the memories, keep smiling and keep moving forwards.
Both you and Dev are my dear friends and I wish the very best for you both. Sending you lots of hugs and positive thoughts.
Poppy, good morning.
and warm 
Dear girl, this has been obvious for some time, I feel for you.
I hope that you won’t withdraw from your friends online, we would miss you, lots!
I look forward to your new layout.
Take care of yourself.
Paul.
Poppy, I know this has been a difficult time, and I hope the future brings you both, warm and loving friendships, as I’m sure it will. I will always be glad for the safe, kind and friendly space you provided together, which allowed me to start playing.
Thankyou,
Alice
Poppy, to write intimately of a relationship, however fun and loving, is brave; to write of that relationship ending, in its present form, takes courage of a different kind. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Your site was the first one I ever followed and your writings have helped me reach an understanding with a lifestyle I had lived, but had conflicting emotions about, for a long time.
I hope you find the happiness and relationship you deserve.
Hugs, ddxx
Poppy, we do understand. I thought this was happening but still sorry to hear.
Love and hugs to you both.
Ronnie
xx
Oh and yes, look forward to the redesign x
Know that your friends online and otherwise support you,and some of us can empathize with you. I too look forward to your new design.
Darling Poppy, thank you for your courage and your great big warm heart. I have been touched beyond words at being able to share the love story of Poppy and Devlin through numerous posts and comments and laughs and tears. But things change, and distance sometimes cannot be overcome. Life is meant to be lived, fully, completely, without reservation, and sometimes the current of that river pushes us onward even when we have loved the place where we have been.
I am looking forward to sharing some small part of your newest explorations here with you, and am, as always, happy to be your friend. Hugs, Scarlet
Poppy you are brave to write about it and share. I see you exploring yourself and your world and I enjoy watching. I have a lot to learn from you, watching your thoughts come across the page.
Thank you so much for being so supportive. It is all ok, just feels sad.
I will continue here, of course, I will write here and tell you all about my adventures and escapades.
You already know that I understand. I count you both as friends. You and I shall meet in the woods soon and talk silly talk to the trees and to each other.
xxx
Big hugs xxx
I’m sorry, darlin’. For you both. Won’t say much more, but you know what’s in my heart. Proper British hugs, and some American ones too, if you want them. xo
We do have a great many supportive friends, Poppy.
Thank you all.
Hugs and more hugs!
Poppy, I can never pretend that I know what it is like to have such a long distance relationship. It must have been very difficult for the two of you being so far away.
Dev’s site was one of the first blogs I visited regularly, besides the post, I loved to read the banter in the comments, it always made me chuckle. It’s been a little over a year since I visited the first time and there has been many changes. Change is good, even if it is hard at the time. Like many others have said reading your stories helped make me feel more comfortable and embrace this way of life and not feel bad or ashamed of it. You are a dear friend and I look forward to your new design and stories.
Kaki
xo
Distance is a tricky thing to navigate, and often impossible, especially when the hearts and minds involved are as big as yours and Dev’s. Since we’re not the sorts to *actually* hug, sending you both thoughts of *possible* hugs.
Sorry to hear about this.
Prefectdt
I have hated announcing this but I knew people would be kind. I can’t tell you what a difference it makes that people understand.
The distance was impossible.
Thank you for the hugs and thank you for being around. I have been writing a lot. It helps. Having such kind friends helps.
To quote a woman who I adore, tomorrow is another day.
Poppy,
Never quite sure of the right thing to say in this situation so I’ll just remind you that we are here and we care about you and sending many hugs.
Suzy
My heart goes out to you both. Sara
Sara and Suzy, thank you.
We are both ok, we really are.
Sorry to read that. Hugs and best wishes…
Poppy,
I am so sorry for your sadness. I can understand why it would be so hard for you both. Sending lots and lots of hugs.
Take care of yourself,
Ally
Thank you, Ally. I appreciate that very much.
poppy,
You are one of those one in a million young ladies. It is like the old saying “you do not miss what you have until it is gone.” Someday Dev will miss you very much and always wonder “what could have been.” But as long as you are still friends and communicating, there is hope.
My one regret in life is that I could not have been fortunate to have met someone just like yourself. Try and be happy and you never know what fate has in store for you. Good luck with your new site.
Jonathin
Distance is horrible. I hate it. I admire you both for choosing what is right for you. My heart goes out to you, because I know how difficult such a decision would be for me. Hugs and love.
~Ephe
Thank you, Jonathan. I think Dev and I miss each other. We always did, that was the problem.
I am a terribly diffcult girl and really you should be relieved not to have met someone like me. I am very hard work.
But thank you for saying such lovely things.
Ephemera, thank you. I know you have a rough time too. Hugs and love to you also.
So very sorry to hear this (and be so tardy in picking up on it). Distance is the hardest thing, but from the sounds of things you two are both still very close and that’s something to be treasured. My best wishes to you both.
aww Poppy, I’m sorry it didn’t work out between you, but glad your still good your friends. hope you find what your looking for *hugs*
Thank you, Loki and we are still vey close, just as you say. I am amazed and happy that love still carries on as it changes form. I hoped it would and it does.
lmn, thank you. It did kind of work out, just the distance became too much. We are the best of friends so have, as you say, found what I am looking for. I am a lucky girl.
I am really sorry for you, Poppy.
It has been such a wonderful match in interests, and, especially, quality.
May good wishes for the time to come.
Mr J, thank you. It was wonderful and we still talk and I do think we will always be wonderful friends. I really am flattered you perceive a match of quality.