Here is my question.
This matter confuses me.
Knickers are small and thin, yes? I know there are all sorts but compared to armour or jeans they are small and thin.
So how come all kinds of things feel a million times worse without your knickers than with them?
A spanking is a big, old meanie, hard handed (or worse) event. A thin strip of cotton between your b
ottom and his hand should make no difference whatsoever. But who hasn’t cried out, “Nooooo” when he takes them down? And it so much worse after their removal than before.
And being put in the corner is horrid with one’s knickers on. It is embarrassing and silly and makes one feel tiny and a bit sulky and shy. So why on earth is it so much worse with no knickers on?
It is something he has seen before and if it is right after a spanking then it is not long since he saw your bottom and so why is it so shy making to be made to stand like that?
Having said that I realise that he has just seen it and why does he need to see it again? His memory cannot be that bad.
And sitting down on a thin strip of cotton or not – why does that matter?
But being made to sit with nothing on one’s lower half after being spanked hurts a horrid amount.
But this is the one that I really, really do not understand.
Why does one need to remove one’s knickers if one is about to be told off?
My bottom is nowhere near my eyes or my face. I know I look down but I don’t look behind me.
I don’t think he even considers how it makes me feel when he tells me to do that. I feel four times as shy and embarrassed as normal and it is almost impossible to argue back when one has no underwear on.
I will tell him what I have realised forthwith and there is bound to be an improvement in his technique. Maybe you should share this with yourself (if you are a Top) or your man (if you are a not-top) – it is bound to make all the difference.
Poppy, maybe it has something to do with humiliation and reminding a sub of her place.
Or perhaps being in a position to tell your girl to remove her knickers or even doing yourself, very little beats that feeling, except when your hand lands firmly on her beloved derriere.
What I wrote in my last comment is all original Paul, as far as I'm aware.
Warm hugs,
Paul.
B made me take off my knickers yesterday before a 'big talk'
I think Paul's right, it has to do with humiliation and being put in that subbie place.
Also it's about vulnerability. B likes me open and beautiful while discussing difficult matters. He says it's hard to be angry with me while I'm sitting there spread and pantie-free…
I think it has a calming effect on him and it's an easier way for us to deal with problems (strange, huh?).
AND I usually get LOADS of attention after our discussion
xoxo, Missy
To me it is not so much humiliation but rather embarressment. I think humiliation makes one feel less good about oneself and I think for me to submit I have to feel safe and loved.
Maybe there are different types of subs. I know that some women like to be called names when they are being chastised. I would not like that at all. I find when he embaresses me he lifts me up to a level of good feeling that is better than how I felt before but humiliation would out me down lower.
Maybe it is a semantic thing.
Good point! I think embarrassment is a better way of putting it
You've gotta feel like your partner is raising your esteem rather than diminishing it.
I find myself blushing and feeling beautiful when told to take my unders off…
I suppose it is semantics? Because embarrassment is in a way a form of humiliation, yes? Awwww, who knows? It's all about how it makes you feel
Beautiful post, Poppy, and I too think embarrass is the better term.
When a naughty woman is commanded that her knickers will come down before she is spanked, is most important. For the humiliating words to her brings to her mind that she is soon to be given a painfull punishment on her bare behind. That is why its important for her to wear that erotic feminine undergarment.
The type of knickers I like a naughty woman to wear before I take them down to deliver a good caning on her bare bottom, are called 'directoire knickers', the old-fashioned bloomers so to speak.